Kink

Kink, kinky and everything that goes with it

A kink is something you find arousing that falls outside "standard sex". Dutch broadcaster BNNVARA describes kinks as intimate desires that many people label as strange, with rimming, public sex and BDSM as examples. What's kinky for one person is ordinary for another. The line differs per person, per company and per era. Researchers describe kink, often referred to as BDSM, as an umbrella term for a wide range of non-normative sexual practices. A 2024 paper in The Journal of Sex Research cites estimates that roughly 20 to 30 percent of people have ever engaged in kink, and that kink fantasies are reported by 40 to 70 percent of adults.

The word "kinky" is usually an adjective: naughty, outside the lines, just a little different from the usual. "Kink" is also a collective name for a whole world of preferences and communities. Within that world, BDSM is the best-known form, but by no means the only one.

What a kink is not

A kink is not a fetish. The difference lies in the word "must". A kink is something you enjoy doing for sexual pleasure, while a fetish is something you need in order to reach pleasure or arousal. With a kink you can still do perfectly well without the extras. They just make things more exciting.

Kink isn't a synonym for BDSM either. BDSM is a sexual preference for power or pain, and that is only one of the many ways a kink can look. A kink also says nothing about how "ordinary" or "special" someone is. It's simply a preference.

Kink at The Pineapple Club

Within The Pineapple Club there's as much room for vanilla as for kink, and the two often mix. Nobody has to join in and everyone sets their own pace. Our code of conduct is about respect for everyone's preferences and boundaries, whatever they are.

Kinks people recognise

• Role play and playing with a character or scenario.
• Playful power dynamics, such as one of you taking the lead.
• Blindfolds, soft restraints or other light bondage.
• Outfits in materials like latex or leather.

For example

• Two partners agree on a role play for an evening away.
• Someone notices a blindfold adds tension, but is just as happy without one.
• A couple discovers together what they find exciting and talks about it calmly.

Please note: some kinks, such as rope or impact, carry physical risks. Always agree beforehand what is and isn't okay, and read about consent and a safeword first.